Did it ever once occur to you that all of this is a huge and violent backlash to the progress that feminism has made? That the complaining and the shaming and the bitching about feminism is largely an attempt to discredit all the things that feminism has brought to the world - much of which upsets the status quo? Why exactly should we thank you for oppressing us and abusing us slightly less than you did in the past? Why shouldn't we keep demanding actual safety and actual equality? Why don't you spend more time thinking about how patriarchy harms men (as well as everyone else) and put your attentions there?

Patriarchy is the issue, not feminists who refuse to be so nice that you forget that there is even a problem.