Lorelei Weldon
2 min readJan 3, 2025

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I don't know about that - I can't really think of any instances where people don't find those they hate at least morally inferior. But back to misogyny - it's not actually hate in most cases - it is the belief that women belong in their lane according to patriarchal binary norms, and those who get out of those lanes are "causing problems."

"Women who resist or flout gendered norms and expectations may subsequently garner suspicion and consternation, which has less to do with their challenging gendered norms per se, and more to do with their challenging entrenched norms simpliciter.

And for some people, feminism, in particular, has profoundly disrupted their sense of the social order. The hostility they display to women who disrupt or pose a threat to gendered social hierarchies, say, is compatible with their being egalitarians in the abstract. They may nevertheless perceive powerful women who do not wield their power in service of men’s interests as abrasive and threatening.

For that reason among others, a misogynist social environment may be partly the result of more or less well-intentioned people acting out of disavowed emotions or exhibiting flashes of aggression that are not consciously experienced. And indeed, such aggression may be acted out partly as a substitute for feeling it: the expression “acting out” is suggestive in this context.”

~Manne, Kate. Down Girl (p. 61). Oxford University Press. Kindle Edition.

I don't think we are likely to have non-patriarchal cultures in the West anytime soon. It's too intertwined with late stage capitalism and white supremacy (all dominance-based ideologies just like patriarchy).

The UN thinks we'll have gender equality in about another hundred years or so. I guess better late than never, but that's pretty disappionting I think.

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Lorelei Weldon
Lorelei Weldon

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