I'm not glibly doing anything. I've repeatedly said that I have empathy and great understanding of the ways that patriachy harms men and boys. But society is a complex system. Very few things in it are cut and dried. Women who undervalue fatherhood (as one example) typically do it because they've had terrible experiences with both their own father and the father of their children - it's a trauma response. You can call that hateful, but I think that's awfully unnuanced. This social system normalizes exerting power and dominance over others as a way to indicate strength (particularly for men).

Patriarchy (as I've learned from Elle) is a dominance hierarchy system that stratifies everyone in as many ways as possible, and maintains those rankings through bullying, coercion, and fear. It's isolating because you have to always be comparing yourself to everyone around you, and deciding which of you is the "winner" in any given interpersonal interaction. That makes it hard to be close to anyone, and humans are a highly social species, so this hurts us deeply and causes a lot of dysfunction. It's a really screwed up and harmful system.

I've enjoyed this chat, but don't really have time for more right now. Take care and I'll see you around Medium.