It takes place all around the world as well as in subcultures of our own society. It's demonstrably the truth. There are cultures where, for example, rape doesn't exist because it's considered unmanly - rather than a show masculine domination and control of women like it is in our culture. Although rape is illegal and largely frowned upon, it's still extremely common place because the attitudes that underpin it are mainstream masculine norms of our culture.
BDSM and kink cultures, on the other hand, have an astronomical buy-in and belief that active on-going consent is essential and desirable - way, way above mainstream America.
We have the culture that we allow. If a few badly behaved men were the problem, how are such a small number of guys perpetrating such a horrendous amount of predation and rape? First of all, it's not that small a number as you seem to want to think and secondly, why aren't the other men stopping them? Why are the other guys turning a blind eye, disbelieving victims, watching violent and misogynistic porn, bonding over degrading and objectifying women, etc, etc., etc.? I mean if they are all such good men not at all responsible for the things that "bad men" do then how on earth can this small group of men be wreaking so much havoc on so many women's lives and how can all the "good men" be doing so many things that foster and allow for the attitudes that lead to rape, domestic abuse, etc.? It doesn't make sense or add up. The answer is that they are all part of the same continuum. Some are at the far most extreme end but it's all the same continuum.
“[Ours] is a culture in which sexualized violence, sexual violence, and violence-by-sex are so common that they should be considered normal. Not normal in the sense of healthy or preferred, but an expression of the sexual norms of the culture, not violations of those norms. Rape is illegal, but the sexual ethic that underlies rape is woven into the fabric of the culture.” — Robert Jensen
And don't try to tell me that isn't actually true, because it very demonstrably is true.
Rapists are not from an alien planet. "They are instead the products of a culture that glorifies and sexualizes male power and dominance and at the same time glorifies and sexualizes female subservience and submission. Rape must be understood not as an aberration in such a cultural environment but as simply the extreme end on a continuum of behaviors. The controversial aspect of this seemingly commonsense argument is that it implicates tens of millions of men who are not rapists. Most men would rather not think about how they participate in a culture that actively promotes — or at the very least tolerates — sexual violence. Many find offensive the mere suggestion of any sense of shared responsibility."
But you and men like you being offended, and looking at this from a childish perspective is what allows the madness to go on. What it screams loud and clear to women is that you don't give a shit about us and that you're really fine with saying that out loud to our faces.
Every 68 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted. That's not taking place due to a "few bad apples."
“As long as we take the view that these are problems for women alone to solve, we cannot expect to reverse the high incidence of rape and child abuse…and domestic violence. We do know that many men do not abuse women and children, and that they strive always to live with respect and dignity. But until today, the collective voice of these men has never been heard, because the issue has not been regarded as one for the whole nation. From today, those who inflict violence on others will know they are being isolated and cannot count on other men to protect them. From now on, all men will hear the call to assume their responsibility for solving this problem.”
— PRESIDENT NELSON MANDELA, NATIONAL MEN’S MARCH, PRETORIA, SOUTH AFRICA, 1997
