Read a social science book and stop thinking of that term from a feminist perspective. That would be a good place to start. Read Elle Beau's many articles on the topic. Visit this website for detailed information about the difference between a partnership system and a domination based one such as patriarchy -https://centerforpartnership.org/. There's plenty of info out there.

The fact that you are inadequately informed isn't really my problem. Educate yourself so that you can have an informed position.