Too many men seem to look at women as sex dispensing machines rather than as human beings. This is the source of the problems. I don't really think most men do want to experience a genuine connection. Perhaps you do, but it's not typical from what I can see based on what I've heard from a wide variety of ages of women I've heard from on this. There's a lot more of this kind of guy out there then there ought to be.
Seems like an awful lot of guys want a Stepford Wife/Girlfriend who does everything to please them and nothing to upset them, and to essentially be a live sex robot and housemaid/nanny.
An American is raped every 68 seconds - most of them women. According to research, about 40% of men have pressured women into doing sexual things they didn't want to. 85% of American women are sexually harassed beginning in childhood.
Most men are not trying to become the best versions of themselves because that requires vulnerability and self-reflection and all sorts of things that are hard and that go against norms of traditional masculinity. A huge number of men believe that women exist to serve them and those numbers are growing though radicalization on the so-called manosphere.
You seem like a nice enough guy but you are entirely deluded about what too many other men are like. Women are leaving the dating world in droves because too many men are entitled assholes who don't remotely care about women as people. My friend went on a date recently and the first the guy said to her is, "Your boobs are even bigger than in your profile." I shit you not.... Another guy lunged at her at the end of the evening and kissed her even though when he asked, she told him no, she didn't want to kiss him. I have two friends who met great guys online, but in general, it's a nightmare out there.
One in four women has been actually raped. Don't you think that would rightfully engender caution and skepticism? Guys are spiking drinks, and physically overpower women every 68 seconds. Are women really out of line for worrying about their safety and body autonomy? Think about what you are saying before you say it.
