You live in a society. What individuals do is often irrelevant to the institutional experience that marginalized peoples have. The fact that you personally have never raped anyone has no bearing on the fact that 1 in 5 women have been raped, nearly all of them by men. Get over yourself. It’s not about you. If you haven’t don’t anything bad, then they aren’t talking about you.

The problem with your Jews analogy is that they are a small minority who has never had any institutional power (outside of Israel). White people have always had institutional power, men have always had institutional power — even if not every single white person or man feels powerful. Up until 50 years ago that was codified in laws as well as social norms.

Do you think there’s no racism, just because it’s not legal to act that way any longer? Power structures are what matters, not individual behavior because most racism and sexism is largely unconsciously perpetrated. It’s mostly not bad people out there marching with the KKK and saying that women belong at home barefoot and pregnant. Those people need to be taken to task for their individual behaviors, but social norms and unconscious bias still need to be held up to the light. That’s where most of the harmful behavior is rooted. If you’re not on board with that, then you are actively a part of the problem.