You might want to express yourself more clearly then because when you said this "You see, on the scale of eroticism, kissing is probably like a 4 or 5 out of 10, not as severe as penetration..." it makes it sound like penetration is the "main event" and kissing is not. I get that you said earlier that it's all sex, but specifically saying that kissing is about half as erotic is penetration gives the impression that it's way, way less important to good sex - which I don't think is true.