Your subheading is this "The feminist belief that men are fundamentally oppressors is itself an act of oppression." It ignores all the evidence that men in a patriarchy are fundamentally oppressors - even if they too are sometimes oppressed by other men. This isn’t because men are evil. It’s because that’s how patriarchy has conditioned them to behave. Men have never been systemically oppressed by women. There’s absolutely zero parity here. Naming one or two women who didn't think much of men is not remotely the same as a whole social system that revolves around men marginalizing and abusing women. Again, this isn't feminism - it's history, sociology, anthropology and obvious to anyone who is actually paying attention.

Women don't send men to fight in wars for them - Duh! Male oligarchs send everyday men to do that. And those same oligarchs co-opting women into encouraging what they were sold as "the patriotic thing to do" is not remotely the same as being told by your religion that you ought to beat your wife to keep her in line and show her that you are "the master." It's not remotely on par with having a fraction of the legal rights as men until very recently. You are comparing apples and oranges and trying to pretend they are the same for ideological reasons, but they aren't the same.

You should be thanking feminists on your knees for all the rights they fought for on your behalf that you enjoy now without any sense of what your life would be like if they hadn't.